February 24, 2008

The Final Basic Fears #3-6 (Napoleon Hill)

We've been looking at the six basic fears that Napoleon Hill identified 70 years ago.

1. Poverty
2. Criticism
3. Ill Health
4. Loss of Love
5. Old Age
6. Death

We focused on poverty and criticism already. This time we'll delve into the rest. Some of the symptoms may seem dated.

#3 Fear of Ill Health
Fear of disease can produce physical symptoms of the disease feared.

Auto-Suggestion
  • negative self-talk
  • “enjoying” imaginary diseases, treating them as real
  • favouring “quack” treatments over professional help
Hypochondria (imaginary disease)
  • concentrating the mind upon disease
  • negative thinking --> expecting disease to appear
Exercise
Susceptibility
  • body’s resistance breaks down --> easier to contract a disease
  • can lead to too much time preparing for sickness
Self-Coddling
  • using an imaginary illness to seek sympathy (and get out of work)
  • hides laziness and lack of ambition
Intemperance
  • use of alcohol and other drugs to destroy pains, rather than eliminating the causes
#4 Fear of Loss of Love
This may be the most painful fear. At least it seems that way if you listen to popular music.

Jealousy
  • suspicion of friends and loved ones without reasonable evidence
  • suspicion of everyone --> no absolute faith in anyone
Fault Finding
  • with friends, relatives, colleagues, and loved ones
  • without any cause
Gambling
  • thinking love can be bought
  • gambling, stealing, cheating, over-spending
  • leads to insomnia, nervousness, lack of persistence, lack of self-control, lack of self-reliance, bad temper
#5 Fear of Old Age
Old age can take away freedom and independence (physical and economic).

Slowing Down
  • feeling the best years are past

Apologizing for Being Old
  • rather than expressing gratitude for being alive
Narrow Thinking
  • no longer taking initiative, using imagination or maintaining self-reliance
Mimicking
  • dressing and acting like much younger people --> ridiculed by friends and strangers
#6 Fear of Death
This fear can be the cruelest fear for some. Is there life after life? The question of what happens after death can be troubling.

Thinking About Dying
  • instead of making the most of life
Lacking Purpose
  • too much time to worry when not busy
Burden on Loved Ones
  • could leave loved ones in poverty due to death or illness prior to death
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February 18, 2008

#2 Fear: Criticism (Napoleon Hill, 1937)

I have no need of friendship; friendship causes pain. It's laughter and it's loving I disdain. -- Simon & Garfunkel, I Am A Rock
Some readers of The Six Basic Fears From 70 Years Ago wanted to know more about the fear of criticism. While we don't like being criticism, it doesn't seem that bad.

Napoleon Hill found that criticism steals initiative, destroys our power of imagination, limits our individuality and takes away our self-reliance. Yikes! Let's explore more.

Symptons
Here are the main symptoms

Self-consciousness
  • nervousness
  • timidity in conversation and meeting strangers
  • awkward hand and limb movements
Lack of Poise
  • lack of voice control
  • nervousness in the presence of others
  • poor body posture
  • poor memory
Personality
  • indecisiveness; side-stepping issues
  • lacking personal charm
  • unable to express opinions definitely
  • agreeing with others without first examining their opinions
Extravagance
  • spending beyond income to keep up with others
Inferiority Complex
  • expressing self-approval by words or actions to hide a feeling of inferiority
  • using big words to impress others
  • imitating others in dress, speech and manners
Lack of Initiative
  • failing to embrace opportunities for advancement
  • reluctant to express opinions
  • lacking confidence in own ideas
  • giving evasive answers to superiors
  • hesitation in manner and speech
  • deceit in words and deeds
Lack of Ambition
  • mental and physical laziness
  • lack of self-assertion
  • slowness in reaching decisions
  • easily influenced by others
  • giving up
  • criticizing the absent and praising the present
  • lacking tact in manner and speech
  • unwilling to accept blame for mistakes
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